Sí, las videollamadas siguen siendo incómodas

También los mensajes por Slack o incluso los mensajes de texto. Y tenemos consejos para ayudarte.

Ver en el navegador|nytimes.com/es 22 de febrero de 2025 Esta es una edición en español del boletín Well, que, como suscriptor de El Times, creemos que puede interesarte. Lo recibirás los sábados, con una selección semanal de notas de bienestar. Ilustración por Matt Chase; fotografías por Shutterstock Por Jancee Dunn Soy Jancee Dunn, editora de la sección Well, y hoy escribo este boletín. Una vez quedé atrapada en una videollamada que debía durar 10 minutos, pero se alargó a una hora. No pude decir una sola palabra para acelerar el final de la reunión. Mi estómago gruñía mientras el sándwich de atún que había preparado se quedaba sin comer en la mesa. Yo seguía preguntándome: ¿hay alguna forma de darle un bocado sin que se den cuenta? Luego terminamos y nos despedimos. "Por fin", dije en voz alta. La otra persona aún no había colgado. Parece que todos tenemos una anécdota sobre algún intercambio vergonzoso en una plataforma de mensajería o video. O han soportado una reunión de Zoom en la que los participantes y sus ojos inexpresivos les recordaban al mostrador de pescados de un supermercado. Aunque la pandemia nos obligó a todos a sentirnos más cómodos en internet, la comunicación virtual puede seguir siendo confusa. Las aplicaciones como Slack y Microsoft Teams pueden eliminar nuestras señales no verbales y sociales, por lo que somos más propensos a los malentendidos, dijo N. Sharon Hill, profesora de gestión en la Escuela de Negocios de la Universidad George Washington. Las videollamadas también pueden ser incómodas, dijo Andrew Brodsky, profesor de gestión de la Universidad de Texas en Austin y autor de Ping: The Secrets of Successful Virtual Communication. Verte a ti mismo en la pantalla puede provocar lo que se llama "ansiedad ante el espejo", dijo, que es el estrés que surge de ver tu reflejo durante largos periodos de tiempo. Pregunté a los expertos cómo podemos hacer que estos encuentros sean más llevaderos. Prepárate un poco En primer lugar, deja que la gente decida cómo quiere comunicarse, dijo Brodsky: "Tomarse un par de segundos para preguntar a la otra persona: 'Oye, ¿cómo quieres hacer esto?', puede eliminar la incomodidad". Evita las torpezas al principio de una videollamada uniéndote a la reunión unos minutos antes, dijo Matt Abrahams, profesor de la Escuela de Negocios de Stanford. Eso te da tiempo para serenarte y asegurarte de que todo está encendido. Una lección difícil de aprender, añadió, es que "siempre es vergonzoso para el profesor de comunicación tener su maldito Zoom en silencio cuando está dando clase". Sé consciente del contacto visual Las videollamadas suelen resultar desconcertantes porque no sabes a dónde mirar, dijo Brodsky. Sin embargo, las investigaciones sugieren que los participantes son percibidos como más simpáticos y dignos de confianza cuando miran a su cámara web en lugar de a su monitor, dijo. "El contacto visual es importante en persona, y también en las videollamadas", dijo Brodsky. Abrahams añadió que, si la llamada es entre tú y otra persona, puedes evitar la incomodidad diciendo: "'Siempre me resulta muy difícil mirar fijamente a la cámara. Así que perdóname si a veces miro hacia otro lado'". Haz una pausa antes de apretar 'enviar' Varios estudios demuestran que las personas que reciben comunicaciones escritas, como correos electrónicos y mensajes de texto, tienden a interpretar el mensaje de forma más negativa de lo que pretendía el remitente, dijo Hill. Por lo tanto, es preferible aumentar la positividad, aconseja. Antes de enviar ese mensaje, añadió Brodsky, pregúntate: "Si este correo electrónico —o mensaje de texto o directo— se reenviara a toda mi área, ¿me parecería bien?". También puedes nombrar a un compañero de confianza para que examine tu tono, sugirió Brodsky. "Yo suelo utilizar a mi esposa para esto", dijo. Evita la jerga complicada Cuando utilices medios como mensajes de texto o Slack, no emplees una jerga interna complicada que pueda sembrar la confusión, dijo Abrahams. Esta tendencia fue denominada "monóxido de jerga" por Hayagreeva "Huggy" Rao, profesor de la Escuela de Negocios de Stanford. Y como hay una gran diferencia entre "que pases un cumpleaños bonito" y "que pases un cumpleaños solito", verifica que no haya erratas, dijo Brodsky. Su investigación ha descubierto que las erratas te hacen parecer menos inteligente y pueden aumentar la emoción percibida: en los correos electrónicos de enfado, por ejemplo, los errores al teclear te hacen parecer más enfadado. Hay formas de cubrirse. Brodsky citó un estudio según el cual, cuando cometes errores tipográficos, incluir "Enviado desde mi iPhone" en tu firma de correo electrónico te ayuda a mantener tu credibilidad. "La gente dice: 'Oh, es porque están en un dispositivo móvil'", dijo. No dudes en pedir aclaraciones En lugar de hacer suposiciones sobre lo que quería decir el remitente de un mensaje, simplemente pregunta, dijo Brodsky. Una vez tuvo un asesor que terminaba todos los correos electrónicos con tres puntos. "Decía: 'Buen trabajo, punto, punto, punto'", dijo Brodsky. "Y yo pensaba: 'Rayos, odia lo que hago'". Finalmente, preguntó a su asesor sobre su puntuación ambigua. Su respuesta: "Significa: 'quiero continuar la conversación'". Resultó que, más que un reproche, los tres puntos eran una invitación a seguir hablando. Y si eres el destinatario de una metida de pata, un poco de humor puede suavizar las cosas, dijo Brodsky. Una vez hice planes para quedar con una nueva compañera de trabajo y le envié un mensaje diciendo que entendía si estaba "demasiado pechugona" para tomar un café. (En inglés pechugona o de senos grandes se escribe "busty" y ocupada se escribe "busy"). "No, estoy a gusto con mi cuerpo", me contestó. Antes de que te vayas ¿Existe algún alimento que nos haga dormir mejor? El asunto no es tan sencillo Los expertos señalan que la investigación en este campo apenas comienza, y no existe ningún ingrediente mágico que garantice un sueño impecable. Lo que sí está claro es que lo que comes a lo largo del día desempeña un papel importante en la manera en que duermes. Lee el artículo: Qué comer y beber para dormir bien MÁS LECTURAS DE LA SECCIÓN DE BIENESTAR DEL TIMES Jackie Russo para The New York Times Hay más muertes por insuficiencia cardiaca. Los nuevos tratamientos podrían prevenirlas Las muertes por esta causa no han dejado de aumentar en Estados Unidos desde 2012. Es probable que el aumento de la obesidad, la diabetes y la hipertensión contribuyan a ello. By Nina Agrawal Tonje Thilesen para The New York Times Pregúntale a Well Soy intolerante a la lactosa. ¿Puedo comer lácteos de todos modos? Algunos productos lácteos son más fáciles de digerir que otros. He aquí cómo identificar los que pueden causar menos problemas. By Caroline Hopkins Legaspi Un entrenamiento intenso, corto y eficaz para principiantes Este tipo de rutinas de alta intensidad pueden agregarse a tu entrenamiento regular y mejorar tu condición física. No necesitan equipo, solo un poco de espacio y energía. By Amanda Loudin and Theodore Tae P. D.: Queremos saber qué te parece este envío especial y si tienes alguna anécdota graciosa de una reunión virtual, ¿por qué no nos mandas un correo y nos lo dices? El Times Una selección semanal de historias en español que no encontrarás en ningún otro sitio, con eñes y acentos. Recíbelo en tu bandeja de entrada ¿Necesitas ayuda? Consulta nuestra página de Ayuda para el boletín o contáctanos. Recibiste este correo electrónico porque te registraste en el boletín El Times de The New York Times. Si quieres dejar de recibir El Times, cancela tu suscripción. 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The Morning: Losing things

When small things vanish, it's a chance to practice letting them go.

View in browser|nytimes.com February 22, 2025 By Melissa Kirsch Good morning. When we lose things, it's tempting to think we need to keep better track of them, to hold on to stuff more tightly. What if the opposite is true? María Jesús Contreras Lost causes A couple months ago, a friend of mine lost her phone. The next day, another friend lost his wallet. These things weren't just misplaced; they didn't surface the next day. They hadn't slid out of a pocket and down between the couch cushions only to be found while tidying the house. The phone and wallet disappeared and didn't come back. They seemed well and truly lost. We misplace things all the time. "Keys, phone, wallet," I repeat as a mantra before I leave the house, the office, the bar, patting my pockets to make sure we're intact. We've all experienced that "Oh no, where's my …" feeling. We're sure we lost some essential item and are hit with a feeling of doom so intense, it's almost breathtaking. Then, just as quickly, that exquisite wash of relief when you find that your phone is, in fact, in the pocket of your coat — false alarm, crisis averted. You are, for a moment, a changed person, a person who glimpsed the horror of having to call the D.M.V., and you got a last-minute reprieve. You'll keep better track of your stuff from now on. You never want to feel that way again. Misplacing stuff and then finding it is everyday nonsense. Losing things is rarer. The fact that two good friends lost important things back-to-back seemed weird, like a particular type of bad luck had zeroed in on my social circle. Someone wise once advised me that when things seem strange or confusing or too symbolically weighty, we might ask ourselves, "How would I interpret this if it were a dream?" It puts some distance between us and what's happening. What if I had a dream in which people in my life kept losing their things? How would I interpret that? "Lose something every day. Accept the fluster / of lost door keys, the hour badly spent. / The art of losing isn't hard to master," Elizabeth Bishop wrote in "One Art." The poem begins by discussing the loss of inconsequential things like keys, then moves on to bigger losses: "three loved houses," "two rivers, a continent," "even losing you." Small losses prepare you for big ones. In the dream in which my friends keep losing seemingly insignificant things, I see symbols. The wallet and the phone are boring essentials, the untreasured, unremarked-upon tools of living that we take for granted until we lose them. Then their import comes into bright focus: What was even in my wallet? License, credit cards, so many receipts. Was there a gift card that I'll never get back? Things were so easy before and I didn't even know it. Now there's all this confusion, all this hassle. Why are we so careless? Why do we take everything for granted? In my interpretation, I am tempted to see a lesson in holding on to things more tightly, in keeping better track, in cherishing harder. But when I asked my friend who lost her phone about the experience, she described two hours of panic. The next morning, though, the feeling had vanished. "I decided that if anyone wanted to get in touch with me, they could wait. That I could get everywhere I needed to, that I actually had everything I needed," she said. Oh! Of course! Impermanence! I always forget. The Buddhist writer Jack Kornfield wrote of his teacher holding up a teacup, saying: "To me this cup is already broken. Because I know its fate, I can enjoy it fully here and now. And when it's gone, it's gone." The cup is already broken. The phone and wallet are already lost. We have everything we need. The things we're afraid of losing are already gone. Knowing this doesn't keep the terror from setting in every time I think I've left my phone in a cab. 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