A plane proposal, country jams and a flying cat

All the Good Stuff that happened this week

View in browser   April 27, 2024 Can you be too positive? I believe qualities like kindness are fully renewable resources. (After all, what reasonable person could look upon humanity and think, "Whoa! That's quite enough kindness. We should be worse to each other.") Positivity, however, is different. There's toxic positivity, which encourages us to minimize others' suffering and ignore our own complicated feelings in favor of fake-it-til-you-make-it optimism. That's unsustainable. But there is another kind of positivity that feels truly endless; the kind that recognizes our collective capacity for cruelty, violence and prejudice can never outmatch our collective capacity for something ... better. This tells us there's always a chance. It puts trust in the idea that people, though often confused, frustrated and easily led astray, can never be severed from the ties of kinship that bind us. That doesn't mean things aren't painful at times. It simply means there's always hope, and that we owe it to ourselves — and others — to keep trying to be better.  If there's something you'd like to see here, drop us a line. Know someone who could use a little Good Stuff? Send them a copy! We hope you love it as much as we do. Our favorites this week Get going with some of our most popular good news stories of the week A friend to the animals If you love your pet and can't imagine an America without animal welfare,* give a little nod of thanks to Henry Bergh, the animal rights activist who founded the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals in 1866. Yes, the cultural norm of treating our animal friends well is relatively new, but because of Bergh's work and those he inspired, dogs, cats and other domestic animals rose in the public's respect over the course of mere decades. In fact, New York's Hartsdale Pet Cemetery — established in 1896 and the oldest animal burial ground in the US — is considered a direct result of this animal rights movement. Bergh's story, and the story of the early animal rights movement in America, is a complex one. But it shows what true passion can achieve, even if it takes years to see change.  Read the whole story here.  (Note a familiar byline: Scottie Andrew, our favorite Good Stuff fill-in writer!)   * Yes, I know what you're thinking. Animals are still treated abominably by some and our relationship with them still needs a lot of work. But every positive change has to start somewhere.  On cloud 9 Some people aren't fans of public proposals, let alone ones on a plane. But this one, oh, this one's good. Captain Konrad Hanc proposed to his flight attendant partner Paula during a recent LOT Polish Airlines flight, and this man got it movie-perfect. Along with a bouquet of flowers and, of course, a ring, Hanc delivered a real winner of a speech over the intercom: "Ladies and gentlemen, about one and a half years ago in this job I met the most wonderful person that completely changed my life," he said. "You are most precious to me. You are my greatest dream come true. This is why I have to ask you a favor, honey. Will you marry me?" In a video posted by the airlines, Paula can be seen running down the cabin aisle to say yes. Too cute!  Read the whole story here.    All means y'all Beyonce's album "Cowboy Carter" is sparking fascinating conversations about what defines country music. (As a country lover I have a lot of strong feelings on this topic, which you can read about here, here and here.) The album's success has also brought attention to the Black Opry, an organization that champions Black country artists and music lovers. Established as a blog in 2021, the Black Opry also holds concerts to help raise the visibility of performers. Artists like Nashville-based singer and songwriter Aaron Vance say they got some of their big breaks from being a part of the Black Opry. For founder Holly G., it's not just about making space for artists. When she started the project, she found countless Black country fans hungry for a welcoming space to engage with the music they love.  Read the whole story here.  This week on the 5 Good Things podcast, elementary school kids show us a few kind words can go a long way with a cheerful hotline. A chain of cafes that employs people with intellectual and developmental disabilities just opened a US location, and scientists have had a conversation with a whale for the first time. Listen to the latest episode here!  Sponsor Content by FinanceBuzz Bonus alert: unlimited cash back match Getting a 0% intro APR credit card could help ease pressure while you pay down your balance. Plus, this top credit card offers an insane 5% cash back match after your first year. That's up to 10% back on qualifying purchases!  A bright idea Nothing to see here, just a giant clownfish doing regular clownfish stuff like, you know, scanning waterways for data to reduce pollution and other threats to aquatic life. These fish-like drones made by Aquaai have cameras and sensors and even move like real fish. The company's founders say the technology could be used for water management, sustainable aquaculture operations, detecting derelict fishing gear and monitoring the health of corals. Typically, waterways are monitored manually, which makes for slow and sporadic data collection. These charming fish could make that work much easier.  Read the whole story here.  You gotta see this What a shot! This is 22-year-old surfer Gabriela Bryan, who just won her first world championship tour event at the Western Australia Margaret River Pro. Her win was made even cooler when a pod of dolphins joined her for a ride on her final wave of the competition. "That wave was sent to me by someone, the dolphins in it," she said after her victory. "It was magical." Read the whole story here.  Hear, hear! "I have this illness for some unknown reason. The way I see it, I have two choices. Either I train like an athlete and work super hard, or I switch off and it's over, I stay at home, listen to my songs, stand in front of my mirror and sing to myself. I've chosen to work with all my body and soul, from head to toe, with a medical team. I want to be the best I can be." - Celine Dion, on living with stiff person syndrome, a rare and debilitating neurological condition. The icon told Vogue France that at first, she was angry and confused about her diagnosis, but gratitude for good medical care and the love of her friends, family and fans have helped her find hope in a difficult situation.  Rec of the week   Brought to you by CNN Underscored Our favorite linens from Brooklinen are on sale right now Whether you're looking for one of the brand's incredibly cozy towels for transforming your daily shower into a spa-like experience or just a darn good set of sheets, you can take 25% off sitewide during Brooklinen's 10th Anniversary Sale. Shameless animal video   There's always time for cute animal videos. That time is now. Good thing cats are aerodynamic, because one little surprise sent this one flying across the room! Yes, of course it's OK. 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The Morning: Making the most of it

Calls to seize the day can seem cliché, but actually doing so is challenging.

View in browser|nytimes.com Continue reading the main story April 27, 2024 By Melissa Kirsch Good morning. The advice to live each day to its fullest can seem like a cliché, but figuring out how to actually do that can be pretty challenging. María Jesús Contreras Saving time Any advice I've ever been given that's actually resonated has boiled down to a variation on the same basic theme: Life is short. Stop wasting it. It comes packaged in varying poetic guises, each profound or corny, depending on how receptive or cynical one is feeling. "Don't borrow trouble" is my favorite, a solid distillation of "Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof" from the Gospels. The poet Andrew Marvell addressed himself to his mistress with the persuasive "The grave's a fine and private place, / But none, I think, do there embrace." A million memes have bloomed from the Mary Oliver line "Tell me, what is it you plan to do / With your one wild and precious life?" The message is consistent and irrefutable: Memento mori. Remember you're going to die. Or, if you prefer, YOLO. I find all of these exhortations urgent and moving and also difficult to absorb. So I'm always grateful to hear the message again, to be reminded to be intentional about how I'm spending or wasting time. I had just such a reminder recently listening to a conversation between The Times's David Marchese and the actress Anne Hathaway. David asks her about turning 40 and entering middle age. She said she was hesitant to mark this time in her life as the middle because she could get hit by a car later today. "We don't know if this is middle age," she says. "We don't know anything." I myself am approaching a milestone birthday, one I'm trying not to think of as some kind of deadline or reckoning, and I welcomed Hathaway's perspective on how we consider time. It's easy to default into picturing one's life as a timeline, to chart our progress along that line, certain we know where the beginning, middle and end are. Hathaway recalled a moment of awakening when, lost in stress, she realized: "You are taking your life for granted. You have no idea. Something could fall through the sky and that would be lights out for you." Here you are, burning daylight and borrowing trouble and going gentle into that good night. Memento mori. Something could, at any moment, fall through the sky. If we really and truly understood that, how would today be different? There are good books that dig into this: Ernest Becker's "Denial of Death," Oliver Burkeman's "Four Thousand Weeks," Stephen Levine's "A Year to Live." I've read them each more than once, periodic efforts to keep the fire under myself ablaze. Sometimes it burns so brightly I find myself hurrying through my life, another way of wasting time. On a recent revisiting of Levine's book I found myself resentful of the time it was taking to read it: What if I was spending too much time considering how I'm spending my time? At that point, I probably was. As David says in the interview, we know we can't take for granted how much time we have left, but "internalizing that so that we can treat each day and moment of our lives like it could be the last, which would be the most powerful change we could make in our lives, is also maybe the hardest thing to actually do." It's one thing to intellectually understand the finitude of our lives and another to actually live it out. Whatever it takes to truly get it is worthwhile, whether it's reading and rereading the same books, or talking it out with friends; whether it's a meditation practice or a sticky note on your monitor or just paying close and compassionate attention to how you're spending your time. It can be tempting to dismiss easily commodified inspiration. I'm skeptical of "seize the day"-style wisdom that I can picture painted in splashy cursive on a piece of shiplap and sold in a home décor store. But maybe that's the point: Reminders of our mortality have broad appeal because their implications are relevant for literally everyone. We don't need to wait until we see something falling through the sky, headed our way, to live as if something might. As Levine writes in "A Year to Live," "Once you see what the heart really needs, it doesn't matter if you're going to live or die, the work is always the same." For more David Marchese's talk with Anne Hathaway is part of a new Times series called "The Interview," which will come out each week as both a podcast and an article. You can get the podcast here, or read the interview here. "Contemplating death is like a cold plunge for the soul, a prick to the amygdala. You emerge renewed, your vision clarified." On the 50th anniversary of "Denial of Death." Meet the nun who wants you to remember you will die. "Pretending death can be indefinitely evaded with hot yoga or a gluten-free diet or antioxidants or just by refusing to look is craven denial." From 2013, Tim Kreider on watching a parent get old. Continue reading the main story ADVERTISEMENT THE WEEK IN CULTURE Music Republic Records, via Associated Press "The Tortured Poets Department," Taylor Swift's latest album, is not universally loved. The Times's pop music team discussed its lukewarm reception. Beyoncé shared her hair-care routine on Instagram to promote her new line of products. In it, she rejected the idea that "people who wear wigs don't have long and healthy hair." RZA, the leader of the Wu-Tang Clan, spoke to The Times about his veganism and the connection between masculinity and meat. The estate of Tupac Shakur threatened to sue Drake over his use of the rapper's voice — likely generated by A.I. — in a diss tracked aimed at Kendrick Lamar, Pitchfork reports. The Spice Girls reunited at Victoria Beckham's 50th birthday party. A video of them singing their 1997 song "Stop" was posted on Instagram by David Beckham. Film and TV Bill Skarsgard in "Boy Kills World." Roadside Attractions/Lionsgate Read The Times's critics on the films that are worth seeing — or at least knowing about — this week, including Luca Guadagnino's "Challengers" and "Boy Kills World," starring Bill Skarsgard. The rom-com "Anyone but You," which is led by Sydney Sweeney and Glen Powell, beat box-office odds to become a hit. The actors discussed its success and leaning into on-set romance rumors. Other Big Stories A Second City performance in Brooklyn. Carlos Perez New York City's improv scene took a hit during the pandemic. Now, a new energy can be seen in performances throughout the city, our comedy columnist writes. In the latest Fashion Chatter column, Ruth La Ferla spoke to the activist Gloria Steinem, who was tapped to promote a campaign about self-acceptance, about her beauty ideals. The nominees for the Turner Prize, the prestigious British art award, were announced. The four chosen artists draw on personal history and identity in their work. Here are 10 highlights from the Venice Biennale, which opened last week. The Getty Museum in Los Angeles will return an ancient bronze head to Turkey. An antiquities dealer sold the work in 1971, but it was later found to have been looted. THE LATEST NEWS Politics Donald Trump on Friday. Dave Sanders for The New York Times Donald Trump's lawyer tried to find inconsistencies in testimony given by David Pecker, the former publisher of The National Enquirer, in Trump's Manhattan criminal trial. Pecker responded defiantly, saying he had been "truthful to the best of my recollection." The Biden administration delayed a decision on whether to ban menthol cigarettes. Tobacco companies and some Black supporters of President Biden oppose a ban. Biden said in an interview with Howard Stern that he would be "happy" to debate Trump and criticized the Supreme Court as "maybe the most conservative in modern history." The Times's Charles Homans attended seven Trump rallies and was stunned by how different the former president sounded compared to his 2016 campaign. Other Big Stories The U.S. said it would not suspend aid to Israeli military units accused of human rights abuses in the West Bank, so long as Israel holds them accountable. Columbia University barred from its campus a student leader of the pro-Palestinian protests who said on video that "Zionists don't deserve to live." The student apologized. The Federal Reserve's preferred measure of inflation remained stubbornly elevated last month. That could prompt Fed officials to keep interest rates high for longer. King Charles III will return to public duties next week, an encouraging sign of recovery about three months after he disclosed that he had cancer. Congestion pricing, which charges drivers more to enter certain parts of New York City in an effort to ease traffic, will take effect June 30. It's the first such program in the country. A subscription to match the variety of your interests. News. Games. Recipes. Product reviews. Sports reporting. A New York Times All Access subscription covers all of it and more. Subscribe today. CULTURE CALENDAR By Alexis Soloski 📺 Hacks (Thursday): Can't you take a joke? This HBO comedy, starring Jean Smart in her career best as a legacy comic and Hannah Einbinder as a gawky millennial upstart, returns for a third season. The show has laughs to burn, many of them from its terrific supporting cast, which includes Megan Stalter and Poppy Liu. But "Hacks" is at its best totaling the high cost that celebrity and comedy exact. 🎥 The Fall Guy (Friday): Ryan Gosling, America's boyfriend, stars opposite Emily Blunt in this reboot of the 1980s TV series. Stunt casting? Exactly. In this giddy ode to movies and the people who make them, Gosling plays Colt Seavers, an injured stuntman hired for a movie directed by Jody (Blunt), his snappish ex. David Leitch, a veteran stuntman, directs. Continue reading the main story ADVERTISEMENT RECIPE OF THE WEEK Christopher Testani for The New York Times By Genevieve Ko Matzo Pizza Gluten-free pizza options may abound now, but nothing beats the crackle of a matzo crust, especially during Passover. In her matzo pizza, Melissa Clark brilliantly starts by toasting olive oil-slicked matzo on its own so it stays crisp. (Using a thicker pizza sauce, like this one, also helps.) It's great on its own or with more toppings. REAL ESTATE Jaida and Keeva Haynes. Dustin Chambers for The New York Times The hunt: A mother and daughter wanted a home outside Atlanta with enough room for some privacy. Which one did they choose? Play our game. What you get for $700,000: A 1926 brick house in Lexington, Ky.; a two-bedroom condo in Lyme, N.H.; or a Tudor Revival home in Minneapolis. Rebuilding: A writer lost nearly everything in a fire. She reflects on what she learned. LIVING A scene from "Challengers." Metro Goldwyn Mayer Pictures Normcore: Members of The Times's Styles desk have feelings about the fashion in the tennis-slash-love triangle movie "Challengers." Easy listening: Podcasts like "The Happiness Lab," hosted by the academic Dr. Laurie Santos, can help soothe the anxious mind. London: In a few years, you could be eating dinner, going to fashion shows and walking through gardens in tunnels below the city. ADVICE FROM WIRECUTTER The easiest Mother's Day gift of them all As a parent of young children, all I want for Mother's Day is a couple hours without them. Conversely, my older sister, a parent of teenagers, is thirsty for any scraps of time with her kiddos, phones down. Where we're aligned: Save your flowers and skip the gift certificate. If you're in a position to give time on May 12, apart or together, do that! But as Wirecutter's gift editor, I've got a front-row seat to dozens of inexpensive gifts I'd graciously receive. Every pick combines delight, beauty and utility, and ideally serves as a joyful reminder of your appreciation. (All that for under $50!) Our advice is to do both: Save your money, give your time. That's what moms really want. — Hannah Morrill GAME OF THE WEEK The Bruins and the Maple Leafs on Wednesday. Claus Andersen/Getty Images Boston Bruins vs. Toronto Maple Leafs, N.H.L. playoffs: One of hockey's oldest rivalries gets another installment. How old? These two first played one another a century ago, in 1924. Toronto hasn't beaten Boston in a playoff series since 1959, and it's currently down two games to one. But don't count the Leafs out: They still have the best player on the ice in Auston Matthews, the N.H.L.'s leader in goals this season, who is among the favorites to win M.V.P. 8 p.m. Eastern on TBS NOW TIME TO PLAY Here is today's Spelling Bee. Yesterday's pangram was pothead. Take the news quiz to see how well you followed this week's headlines. And here are today's Mini Crossword, Wordle, Sudoku and Connections. Thanks for spending part of your weekend with The Times. — Melissa Sign up here to get this newsletter in your inbox. Reach our team at themorning@nytimes.com. P.S. For anybody who wants to reflect on yesterday's Times crossword puzzle, David Leonhardt was the guest columnist for Wordplay. Continue reading the main story Editor: David Leonhardt Deputy Editor: Adam B. 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